Everyday of our lives, we make decisions. Those go from mear day to day decisions to those more serious, that may affect your work and/or family life. To make them, can be more complicated when we know, beforehand, that we will have to live with its consequences, for a long period of time.
A technique that is largely used to help with this process, is to rationalise: laying the options side by side e writing their pros and cons. This process can be useful in many cases, because when we write and read what we wrote, we can manage to eliminate what it doesn’t suit us, in a more objective way.
However, at times, we tend to go to the least probable option; the one that makes the least rational sense. Besides, when we want something, but have no courage to admit it, we tend to find reasons to justify our choice. There is nothing wrong with that, but what is interesting, is that there are factores on us, that are certainly stronger than the pros and cons of our lists.
Our needs as human beings, go way beyond our life goals and, normally, each individual is driven by two dominating ones. When you are conscious of that, you can easily identify situations in which you are being slaved by your needs. Think about it - human needs, are what is behind each one of your wishes - if this goal is obtainable, you will have more clarity in to what you should take in consideration and which steps to give to get there. On the other hand, you can change your plan of action, while you still listen to your human needs.
Many people today, associate coaching with motivational speeches, but this is only a small peace - and sometimes an annoying one - of a much more complex process. A well trained personal Coach, has a variety of questions and tools, and will used it to help you to understand your dominant needs and think for yourself, make decisions and plan their execution.
In some cases, a coaching programme will be carried out in conjunction with mentoring and other techniques in a effort to solve the client’s problem. If that is the case, it’s important for the professional to be clear with its client, about the use of other tools.
